More than just planning the challenges.
Among the list of things to do on your wedding day, gatecrashing is one of the more fun activities that both the bride and groom can look forward to.
In Singapore, we have seen multiple news reports on how the groom’s team dresses up for the gatecrashing, all in the spirit of fun and excitement. There are no hard and fast rules on how to do your gatecrash, but we thought we could give a brief overview of the history of gatecrashing, as well as, 5 things to consider when planning for your wedding gatecrash.
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The History Of Gatecrashing
Chuangmen (闯门), or gatecrashing is a traditional Chinese wedding custom tracing back to ancient China, where they believed the bride was a prized daughter that the family was reluctant to let go of, especially to someone unworthy.
Thus, the bride’s family would block access to the groom’s path using various objects, such as pots and buckets, to test him. If successfully overcome, the groom’s efforts can symbolize his determination and love – proving he is worthy of the bride.
Today, we practised gatecrashing for fun, excitement, and, of course, to put the groom’s love to the test. Instead of using pots and buckets, we have become a lot more creative with the challenges. Here is a rundown of how a typical Singaporean gatecrash goes:
On the day of the wedding, the groom and his groomsmen will face playful challenges set by the bridesmaids to gain entry into the bride’s home. After the challenges are completed, the groom is expected to “bribe” the bridesmaids with ang baos to gain entry to the bride’s home and see her.
The final step of the ceremony is complete when the groom makes his way to his bride, lifts her veil, and bestows her with a kiss.
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5 Things To Consider When Planning For A Gatecrash
Although planning the gatecrash challenges is the bigger bulk of the gatecrash, we do want to raise a few pointers to bear in mind.
Plan Within The Allotted Time
We cannot emphasize enough how important it is to plan within the allotted time – especially if you have an auspicious time to follow. Do ensure that the gatecrash activities are well-timed and don’t delay the overall wedding schedule.
Consider The Feelings Affected
While it is not uncommon to see some embarrassing challenges, we do want to consider the groomsmen and groom’s feelings. We do not want to cross the line and cause extreme embarrassment. Be mindful of personal boundaries and ensure no one feels uncomfortable or pressured to participate in activities they are not comfortable with.
Additionally, we must also consider the rest of the people bearing witness to these games. Just imagine if the groom’s mother is around, how would she feel if she sees an inappropriate challenge that her son has to do?
Do ensure that you select games and tasks that are appropriate for the audience and setting. Avoid any activities that might be considered offensive or inappropriate.
For grooms and groomsmen, be a good sport, try to participate in the games and be open to a little challenge. Don’t turn down the challenges if possible – after all this is to show your sincerity, determination and love for your bride.
Consider The Challenges And Their Consequences
Although 酸甜苦辣 (sour, sweet, bitter, and spicy) challenge is a staple for gatecrashing in Singapore, it is also not uncommon to hear stories of bridesmaids taking the challenge to the next level. In turn, this resulted in the groom staying on the toilet during the wedding or having discomfort to enjoy his big day.
Regardless of the challenges chosen, do consider the consequences of it. Ultimately, we do want both the bride and groom to enjoy the later part of the day.
Consider Safety
This is as important as the rest of the pointers above. We should ensure that physical challenges are safe and won’t cause injury. It is advisable to avoid tasks that are too strenuous or dangerous.
If food is involved aka 酸甜苦辣 ensure that you practice food safety as well, be mindful of allergies and dietary restrictions.
Good-Natured Bribery
As shared above, the groom will usually prepare ang baos to “bribe” the bridesmaid to gain entry to see the bride. Do not request for a ridiculous amount – after all weddings in Singapore are generally costly already. Be reasonable and accept an amount that is significant enough to show sincerity but within reasonable limits.
By considering these points, the gatecrash can be a memorable and enjoyable part of the wedding celebration that honours tradition and fosters joy among all participants.
