I Spent 1 Year Growing My Hair Out For My Wedding, Only To Cut It Off A Few Months Before

Before you choose to grow your hair out for your wedding, hear me out first

It seems to me that almost everyone I know who has gotten married or is getting married has grown out their hair for their wedding day. I, too, blindly followed suit and spent 1 year growing my hair out for my wedding, only to cut it off a few months before the actual day.

Yes, you’ve read that right.

Why I Decided To Grow My Hair At First

To provide some context, my hair has always been short, and, of course, I’ve made multiple attempts to grow it out. However, I would usually just snip it off because I didn’t like the way it looked.

So why did I decide to grow my hair out if I didn’t like the way it looked? Well, the truth is, I just did not want to be a bride with short hair. I wanted to fit the traditional look of being a bride with nice, long hair. Additionally, I also wanted to get creative with my hairstyle on my wedding day, and I believed I could do so with long hair — or at least, that’s what I thought.

Why I Decided To Snip My Hair Off

I stuck with that mindset and for months, grew out my short bob. I got past the awkward length stage, and with my natural curls, you would that think it’d look nice, but I’ve never looked worse in my whole life. I felt uncomfortable and even with my long hair properly styled, I looked like a complete mess. This led me to come to terms that, I just don’t look good with long hair and I’ve wasted months of effort to grow up my hair, just because I wanted to fit the traditional look of a bride.

I failed to realise what works for others might not work for me.

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Some Might Ask: “What If You Regret It?”

I would be lying if I said that this question didn’t cross my mind. In fact, it was the only thought I had. I was afraid that I would regret snipping my hair off and not having enough time to grow it out. I was also afraid that I wouldn’t regret not having enough cute hairstyle options to choose from.

But the truth is, I was overthinking the situation and more importantly, if my end goal is to look my best on my wedding day, I just have to snip away my long hair and go back to my short bob because that’s what I feel most confident in and look best in.

Thankfully, my maid-of-honour got my thoughts grounded and I immediately went for a haircut the following day.

Read also: A Candid Conversation with a Maid of Honour: Unveiling the Essential Duties and Experience

Believing That Feeling Confident Is The Key To You Looking Your Best

I am a strong believer that feeling confident is the key to looking your best. When you feel confident, you radiate an aura that captivates others, making your true beauty shine from within. The key to gaining such confidence is feeling comfortable in your own skin which means doing what you think will make you look best.

So be it if it’s a short haircut, as long as you feel good and confident about it, you won’t have to worry constantly about how you look. You should do what makes you feel comfortable on your wedding day even if it’s against the norm, because you look the most beautiful when you are comfortable and confident.

Don’t Forget Head Accessories Is Your Best Friend

You can always accessorise. If you are not into splurging for hair accessories, you can always source from TaoBao, there are plenty of options out there, just discuss with your stylist on that day and get creative! 

Check out our screenshot below for some inspiration:

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Besides, the amount of hairstyle options isn’t as limited as you think – thanks to creative hairstylists and websites like Xiao Hong Shu!

At The Very Worst, Just Get Hair Extensions

Although it is pricey, getting hair extensions for your wedding offers versatility, allowing you to achieve the desired length and volume for your dream hairstyle, regardless of your natural hair length. It’s a quick solution for those who want longer hair or added volume, ensuring you look and feel your best on your special day.

At The End Of The Day

I am glad that I made this realisation a few months before my wedding. I could imagine myself being worried about my hair getting messy, not looking my best and not feeling my best if I had kept my long hair. At the end of the day, feeling comfortable and confident is key.